Tied for the best movie I have ever seen

After playing with our expectations, this turns out to be a very different sort of film.

It really made me laugh, but for some moments I was tearing up because I could relate so much.

Exactly the movie you think it is, but not the movie you want it to be.

I am a parent. Perhaps you are, as well. Can you even try to imagine the nightmare of your child taking part in a savagely inhuman and completely inexplicable act of violence? Me either. However, this is the devastating struggle inflicted on two upper class Italian couples and their desensitized, privileged kids in the searing drama "The Dinner". The acting here is first-rate across the board. For my lira the husband and wife played by Luigi Lo Cascio and Giovanna Mezzogiorno (a dead ringer for American actress Debra Winger) and their son portrayed by Jacopo Olmo Antinori shine brightest in this story that is as wrenchingly hard to watch as it is to process. "The Dinner" is the second of three films produced in a trio of different countries (Holland and The United States being the others) based on the novel by Dutch author Herman Koch. And for some reason it generally seems to be the lowest regarded of the group. I definitely intend to see the other two cinematic interpretations of Koch's book now. Still, it is very hard to believe that I will find either one of them to be superior to this emotionally gripping stunner.

I found a copy of this DVD at my local library and I'm glad I did, as I thought the movie was an intense and suspenseful drama that I liked quite a bit. It's well directed by Ivano de Matteo, who also co-wrote the script with Valentina Ferlan, and is based on the book by Herman Koch. I see there's going to be an American version of the film coming out next year, with a most talented all-star cast.Here, this Italian drama centers on two well-to-do families, who are torn asunder when it's revealed that the teenage son of one family and the daughter of the other have committed a most heinous crime, Tension and suspense builds as the parents grapple with how to handle it all, and it didn't go the way I expected it to. It will all culminate in a most shocking finale.Overall, the intrigue of this movie, which is well acted, written, and directed, kept me absorbed throughout, and you may very well find it to your liking.

Ivano De Matteo wrote (with Valentina Ferlan) and directed this tough little film that takes a bit out of contemporary mores and serves is up as 'dinner'. It is classy in every aspect, the only exception being the crime that turns out to be the denouement of the story. It is a story about two brothers and their wives, and the interactions between them and their two high school age children. And the consequences that occur when the kids get into serious trouble together e manner in which the parents' relationships change with and among each other. The well scripted synopsis states, 'THE DINNER turns an ordinary meal among family into a taut morality play as the limits of polite society are tested and two brothers discover just how little they know about each other. To Massimo (Alessandro Gassman), a gutsy defense attorney, the monthly dinners with his pediatrician brother Paolo (Luigi Lo Cascio) and their wives at a posh local restaurant are a status symbol, even if the time is spent in forced familiarity and inconsequential conversation about the latest films, the day's news or their children's schoolwork. When Paolo's wife Clara (Giovanna Mezzogiorno) sees disturbing security camera footage of a homeless woman being mercilessly beaten, she worries it may be her teenage son Michele (Jacopo Olmo Antipori) and his cousin, Massimo's daughter Benni (Rosabell Laurenti Sellers), who are responsible for the gruesome attack. Their fragile balancing act of respectability and class now shattered, the two families navigate the repercussions of this senseless assault, revealing in the process the skewed priorities and moral shortcomings of their privileged, insulated perspectives.This is a film that is beautifully scripted and acted and offers a fine reminder of how fine Italian films can be.

The movie starts off with a seemingly cookie-cutter story that follows the contours of a narrative we encounter (too often, unfortunately) in the news. This includes a very questionable police shooting, which is probably more relevant for the States than it is for Italy, but the director uses it to bring the idea of the movie in sharp relief. The characters' positions relative to the tragedy that unfolds fall quickly into "traditional" discourse patterns: liberal/conservative, sleazy lawyer/kind doctor. The director manages to make this part of the movie not as trite as it could have been, but nonetheless the character development is very "expected". We (the audience) nod our collective heads knowingly as the action unfolds...Little do we (the audience) know that the first part of the movie is just scaffolding for what happens next. A second tragedy enters the story. This time it's not just a news story that our characters happen to be professionally involved with at arm's length. It's much closer. For the audience, the two tragedies may feel equally distant (and that's the genius of this movie!) but for our characters the second one is very personal. The choices these characters make are unexpected and thought provoking.The movie becomes a dissertation about where we *really* stand when the rubber meets the road. Talk is cheap, putting your money where your mouth is turns out to be a whole lot harder. The movie contrasts an emotional response to the world around us to a cold and calculated one, and the conclusions may be anything but traditional.